How to Overcome Fear

You know those mirrors at carnivals that distort your shape and make you look crazy? They make you look taller, shorter, thin as a rail and wide as a truck? I was terrified of them as a toddler.

I actually thought they were changing me. (Now, I realize we all hate the ones that make us look two feet tall and ten feet wide!) As an adult, I look back and laugh at my fear of mirrors because I know it is just an illusion and that reflection bears no truth on what I actually look like.

Fear is like that carnival mirror reflecting an illusion back to you.

Fear wants to distract you from your purpose, lives to keep you from your potential, and longs to dull your passion.

You were created to do great things in this world, and fear is a powerful tool of the enemy to keep you from your calling.

  • Fear keeps businesses from ever starting.
  • Fear keeps blogs and books unwritten.
  • Fear keeps testimonies silenced.
  • Fear keeps families estranged.
  • Fear keeps people stuck, unable to move forward in their lives.

Fear can be a powerful beast. The more we give into fear and let ourselves believe the lies of fear, the more power we give it.

So how do we overcome fear? The answer may seem so simple that it is easy to discount the power of it.

Truth is your superpower. It trumps fear every single time.

Speak Truth over your fear.

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” (Philippians 4:8).

We can focus on “whatever is true” until our fears have been replaced with truth.

Next time you find yourself caught in a loop of negative thoughts, and feelings of fear build up inside of you, it is crucial to remind yourself what is true.

“No. That isn’t truth. I know this to be true….” And follow that truth up with scripture. Sometimes it is a really basic truth like “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:6).

Don’t let fear keep you from all you are called to do in this life. Speak truth over lies and move forward to your God given destiny. <-Click here to tweet it. 

*This post is reprinted from the Propel Magazine. You can download your free issue here. 

On Jamming My Feet Into Dreams That Don't Fit

I may as well go ahead and confess it now (because when my book comes out next year you're going to know it anyway..but more on that later) but I am a sucker for a good Disney classic. So you can bet I was excited to see Disney's new version of Cinderella.

The thing is, when you're the only girl in a house of 6 men, getting a date to see a princess find true love can sometimes be a little challenging. (I snuck off to watch it while my oldest was at Young Life. I guess on the upside, I didn't have to share my Junior Mints!)

The live action Cinderella remake is all over the the web- discussions of costumes, corsets, feminism and even my favorite part- Helena Bonham Carter as the best fairy godmother ever. #Kumquat!

And while most people walked away from the movie with the mantra, "Have courage, be kind," running through their head, I left the theatre thinking about striving.

Striving for position, angling for advantage and being cruel to insure ones' own security. It's a thread that runs throughout the movie and is all summed up by the visual of all those women trying to jam their feet into a slipper that wasn’t created for them.

I'd much rather say I can relate to the mantra "Have courage, be kind" but if I'm honest with myself (and with you) I’ve spent years of my life trying to jam my foot in a metaphorical slipper that doesn’t fit. Out of fear, out of pride, out of confusion, you name it, I’ve done it.

I bet you know what I’m talking about too: 

This is so me!

This is so me!

  • Sometimes the slipper is the business we dreamed of building
  • Sometimes the slipper is a relationship that leaves us hurt yet we keep trying to turn it around
  • Sometimes the slipper is that one goal or accomplishment that is always out of reach

That glass slipper represents whatever we decide is our benchmark of ‘I’ll be happy when..”

I’ll be happy when..

…my prince comes

…I get that promotion

…we move into that castle

So we strive, and angle and stay crazy busy trying to get what wasn't created for us in the first place. We cram our foot into every shiny glass slipper that comes along, instead of waiting for the one that was created for us.

You know what struck me the most though? While everyone else was busy (and miserable) doing everything possible to get what they wanted, Cinderella was content. And she was content because she wasn't striving for more.

She was simply waiting to slip her foot into the slipper that was made solely for her.

I wasn't expecting a life lesson, but boy did I get one. It's so easy to get caught up in being busy and striving for more. But real joy comes in being content with where we are now and waiting for what God has for us next.

If you've seen the movie, what message did you walk away with?