As moms, we want to be patient with our kids, but some days, that can be especially difficult when kids test our limits. So to understand how moms can become more patient, it is worthwhile to look at the definition.
According to Google, patience is “the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.”
Patience is more than not getting upset when your Amazon order takes too long to arrive, or refraining from an angry outburst when the package gets left in the rain. I love the insight we can gain from this beautiful scripture about patience.
Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Ephesians 4:2 (NLT)
When kids misbehave, humility, gentleness, and patience are not always the first responses of moms. Patience is about how we treat people around us. Having patience is about controlling our emotions and reactions in any situation. Becoming a more patient mom has nothing to do with our kids and everything to do with us.
Understand that patience does not develop overnight. Think of patience as a muscle; through training, your muscles become stronger over time. How do we make this patience scripture a reality in our everyday life?
Don’t worry, moms, we can start turning the patience scripture into reality because I have 10 practical steps to becoming a more patient mom:
It can be challenging for moms not to read their kids’ disobedience as a failure as a parent. Understand that kids are misbehaving and not listening because of immaturity. Your kids are going to make mistakes. They will be impulsive and say things they shouldn’t because they’re kids.
By letting the small stuff go, we moms can be present with the important people in our lives, focusing on the things we value and feeling grateful for all we have. Instead of getting angry about the toys all over the living floor, notice that there is laughter and joy. It’s the gift of perspective. Rather than stress about the mess, moms can kiss their kids and be grateful for a good day.
Moms should set their expectations based on their kids’ age and abilities. Kids don’t know how to control their emotions. So they will have tantrums and meltdowns. It’s also easy to forget that their behavior is normal for their age. So, moms can expect obedience, but with a grain of lowered expectations.
Moms take care of everyone but rarely take time for themselves to relax or recharge. When moms drive the kids to school, after-school activities, meal planning, fundraising, and appointments, moms forget to schedule time for themselves. An overtired and stressed-out mom lacks the emotional and mental capacity to deal with her kids’ misbehavior.
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Moms spend most of their time caring for kids, working, and managing the household, neglecting their own needs. The key to saving time is to work smarter, not harder. Planning, prioritizing, a few time-management tips, and shaving hours off your weekly schedule are possible. Having your groceries delivered and splitting carpooling duties are great time management tips.
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Make sure the kiddos are safe; go to another room, like the bathroom, to calm down. Splash cold water on your face. Take some deep, cleansing breaths. Close your eyes for a few moments if you can’t leave.
Do something to relax your mind. For instance, listen to your favorite song, read your favorite scriptures, or focus on the positive aspects of your day.
Ask God for strength and patience in dealing with your children with love and kindness. If all you can manage is, “Help me, Jesus,” then go with that. It’s good enough, and He will help.
Your mean voice might work in the short term, but your kids will stop listening to you in the long run. You can change an entire conversation by adjusting your voice tone when speaking to your kids. Kids will be much more attentive and receive corrections if you talk softly and gently.
Once calm, you can deal with your kiddos and the situation patiently without yelling and regretting your words or actions.
Kids are driven by emotions, and things that are little to you can feel very big to them. So not finding their favorite blanket or toy can be devastating to them. So put your little kid glasses on and see the situation from your child’s perspective before you react.
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Remember, the quality of time is more important than the quantity. So even a few minutes each can make a big difference in your child’s behavior and mood.
Being a mom can sometimes be frustrating because raising kids is not easy. Patience is a virtue that all moms can use more of, especially on tough days. I hope these practical tips will help you make the patience scripture a reality in your everyday life. Realize that you will be more patient tomorrow than yesterday, which is progress. I believe in you!
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