Break the Pattern with Karen Ehman | Episode 186

The holiday season is fast approaching, friends! You know, the busy season where we overperform, try to make everything perfect  and say yes to all the things. But, what would the holidays look like if we didn’t run around trying to make others happy all the time?

I’m so excited to have my friend and prolific author, Karen Ehman, back on the show again this week. We sit down to talk about Karen’s new book When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable and how to live out your own priorities despite what others think. Plus, Karen shares ways that we can cultivate strategies for knowing when to say yes and how to say no to ultimately break the pattern of people pleasing and confidently live our lives.

This one is super practical, with grace-filled advice, and I think it will resonate with so many of us during this busy season. 

Listen in to hear more about: 

1. Why Karen knew it was time to write this particular book
2. How saying no can be one of the most important things we do
3. How to handle the pushers, pouters and guilt-bombers when we start putting up boundaries
4. Karen’s practical and simple advice on what to say yes or no to and shares her “stop it” statements for recovering “people-pleasers” 

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Favorite quotes:

As Christians, we want to be loving and helpful. We want to serve, we want to put other people before ourselves and consider others as better than ourselves. We want to do all of that. But when we cross the line and we’re doing it because someone expects us to or we’re trying to get in their good graces, now we are doing the right things for the wrong reasons.

I realized after the first 10 years of parenting that I don’t have to do every single tradition, every single year, in order to make fun memories for my kids.

Other people’s happiness is not my assignment. It’s God’s assignment to bring people joy. It’s not my assignment to bring them temporary happiness.

If God is really calling you to do something, don’t fail to do it because you’re afraid that somebody won’t approve. You don’t need their permission.

In this episode I answer this question:

When you’re working with your business coaching clients, what habits or beliefs are the ones that make some of them unable to succeed? (40:45)

Links to great things we discussed: 

1. Karen Ehman
2. When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable
3. Smooth Deep Brown Noise
4. Only Murders in the Building
5. The Hidden Art Of Homemaking
6. Vegetable pods
7. PictureThis
8. The Story I’ll Tell
9. Invasion
10. Standing Strong

Order your copy of Standing Strong here.

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xo,

Alli