How to Make 85-Year-Old You Miserable Episode 342

Make the 85-Year-Old-You Miserable

Hello, friends! This week, I posed a powerful question during a recent client getaway: If I wanted to make 85-year-old me miserable, what would I do? It sparked incredible conversations and reflections, and I believe it’s a question worth exploring together.

The Power of the Right Questions

As a leader and coach, I know that the most impactful insights often come not from having all the answers, but from asking the right questions. True success isn’t about secret formulas; it’s about a wise counselor helping you uncover the truths that lead to growth and fulfillment.

So, let’s dive into this question. If you took a close look at your daily life and decisions, would you conclude that your current path would lead to a miserable future version of yourself? If not, great! You’re on the right track. But if so, it’s time for some honest reflection.

Common Regrets from Those at the End of Their Lives

Inspired by the work of Bronnie Ware, a nurse who cared for the terminally ill, I want to share some common regrets people express as they approach the end of their lives:

1. Wishing They’d Had the Courage to Live Authentically: Many lament living for others’ expectations instead of pursuing their true calling.
2. Regretting Their Workaholic Tendencies: Particularly among men, there’s often a realization that work overshadowed family and relationships.
3. Not Expressing Their Feelings: Holding back emotions can lead to bitterness, resentment, and, ultimately, loneliness.
4. Losing Touch with Friends: Life can get busy, but friendships need nurturing, especially in our 30s and 40s.
5. Wishing They’d Allowed Themselves to Be Happier: Too often, people get caught in negativity, forgetting that happiness can be a choice.

What Will You Do Differently?

With these regrets in mind, let’s turn back to our central question. What actions will help ensure that 85-year-old you is happy and fulfilled? Here are a few areas to consider:

1. Embrace New Experiences: Don’t shy away from stepping out of your comfort zone. Surround yourself with people who inspire you and expose you to new ideas.
2. Let Go of Perfectionism: Waiting for the “right” time or the “perfect” situation can keep you from seizing opportunities. Instead, take action and allow yourself to be imperfect.
3. Invest in Yourself: Too often, we pour our energy into others while neglecting our own well-being. Make time for your health, spiritual growth, and emotional care.

Taking Action Today

You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. Start small. Choose three simple changes or habits to adopt that will lead you closer to the life you envision for 85-year-old you.

Remember, small changes can lead to significant results!

An Ongoing Journey

Reflecting on my own journey, I realized that after losing my grandfather, I wanted to make the most of my years. I’ve committed to getting healthy and staying active, ensuring that 85-year-old me will be full of energy and vitality.

As you think about your future, keep in mind that this journey is about progress, not perfection. Write down your thoughts, pray on it, and truly consider what steps you need to take to live your best life today.

I’m grateful we can share this time each week to invest in ourselves. You’re making an impact in this world, and I believe in the incredible potential within you.

Keep stepping up, and showing up, and loving well because you can’t break a woman who gets her strength from God.

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Favorite Quotes: 

“Wisdom comes from life experience, prayer, reflection, and getting asked the right question at the right moment.” ~ 01:34

“So many people had the exact same regrets.” ~ 02:37

“We should work on our happiness. We should do everything possible to live healthy, happy, and Godly lives.” ~ 06:57

“Sometimes we need to think of the cost of not doing something because we get so used to the status quo we can’t even imagine how much better it will be if we’re willing to invest.” ~ 12:11

“Remember, small changes equal big results.” ~ 13:14

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xo,

Alli