How to Lead with Confidence and Build Trust at Work with Selena Rezvani. Episode 525
How to Lead with Confidence and Build Trust at Work with Selena Rezvani
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What does it look like to walk into a room as your full self, not the version who already decided she doesn’t belong there? Leadership coach and author Selena Rezvani has spent her career sitting with that exact question, and in this conversation, she brings the kind of stories and truth that land deep.
Selena teaches leaders how to build trust and share power, and she does it with the kind of real‑life credibility you can’t fake. She’s bombed the interview, eaten the whole sleeve of Milano cookies, and still gone back to write a completely different ending. Her work sticks because it’s lived, not theoretical.
This episode is for every woman who has ever over-prepared, under-showed, and wondered what might have happened if she had let herself take up the space she deserved. Listen in, and let it remind you that you belong in the room, too.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why your energy, not your to-do list, should be shaping your workday
- How to advocate for yourself with the people above you without slipping into the tightrope women are so often forced to walk
- The GPS framework for getting a yes, even when the ask feels bold or a little risky
- What healthy entitlement actually means and why it matters when you’re negotiating for what you need
- Why one of the most surprising research findings about managers will change the way you think about leadership
- How to hold a no loosely and still go back two more times when it matters
Timestamps:
(01:48) – Selena’s crooked career path from social work to executive coaching
(04:39) – How Selena structures her workday around energy, not equal time blocks
(07:28) – Raising twins, recovering from infertility, and what changes when you know what you fought for
(10:00) – Things Selena used to obsess about at work that she’s finally let go of
(10:26) – How women can advocate for themselves without paying the “bluntness penalty”
(11:20) – The GPS framework: tailoring your pitch to someone’s goals, passions, and struggles
(13:04) – Speaking peer to peer, not up to a pedestal, and the concept of healthy entitlement
(14:36) – What surprised Selena most in her research for her latest book
(15:15) – The study that found your manager’s impact rivals your spouse’s
(16:13) – The missed opportunity story, the rosé, the Milano cookies, and what happened when Selena went back
(19:35) – The most common misconception women have about vulnerability in leadership
(22:38) – Selena’s travel talisman, her skincare secret (it’s tretinoin, naturally), and her Poshmark obsession
(26:19) – Where to find Selena and why her book belongs on your desk Monday morning
Links to great things we discussed:
- Selena’s Website
- Selena’s Online Recommendation – Poshmark
- Function Health
- Uplift App
- Wise Woman Era
- Alli on YouTube
I hope you loved this episode! 🎉
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