The Real Reason You Feel Fear (and the Free Fix) with Jess Connolly. Episode 553
The Real Reason You Feel Fear (and the Free Fix) with Jess Connolly
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A handwritten list of everything he thought was wrong with Jess Connolly landed in her hands, and the man who felt like family walked out. Her knees hit the floor. That kind of fear, the one that whispers you are the problem, is something so many of us carry quietly.
In her most personal book yet, Jess talks about fear, faith, and the nervous system, and shows how that can help you face fear without shame. She explains what happens in your body when panic shows up, why fear isn’t a sin, and one simple practice to name what scares you before it grows.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why naming your fear on paper takes most of its power away, and the free timed exercise Jess swears by
- What is happening in your body during a panic attack, and why your nervous system is actually on your side
- The biblical case that fear is not a sin, and how that changes the way you experience God
- How to catch an old fear before it snowballs into a full spiral
- What an unregulated Enneagram 8 does to a room, and how self-regulation changes everything
- Why it is your unprocessed fear, not the fear itself, that holds you back from abundance
Timestamps:
(01:44) — How Jess knew fear was her next book (a tale of two retreats)
(03:31) — The stray thought that snowballed into a four-hour panic attack
(05:53) — The biggest surprise in her research: fear is not a sin
(06:43) — Anxiety and panic as your body trying to help you
(08:16) — What writing this book actually cost her
(10:47) — The hurtful post about faith leaders and the nervous system
(12:10) — The handwritten list of grievances
(14:42) — Staying out of the spiral: remembering you kept breathing
(19:15) — The prayer that named self-hatred
(20:46) — Enneagram 8 women, regulation, and the temperature of a room
(23:13) — The free step for fear: name it on paper
(24:48) — Fun questions: a song and a comfort show
(26:04) — Faith, wisdom, and using AI well
(29:00) — Books and skincare Jess is loving right now
(34:11) — Why you need this book
Links to great things we discussed:
- You Can’t Be Brave Until You’re Scared
- Jess’ Product Recommendations: The Ordinary 100% Organic Cold-Pressed Moroccan Argan Oil, Medicube Pore-minimizing pads, & Dr. MetaCine Instafacial Plasma Serum
- Jess’ Song Recommendation: Joy
- Jess’ TV Recommendation: The West Wing
- Jess’ Book Recommendation: The Tao of Intimacy and Ecstasy
- Function Health
- Uplift App
- Join me on Substack: Wise Woman Method
- Alli on YouTube
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