Motherhood is full of surprises. Most new moms go into motherhood with expectations: What they’ll be like as a mom, how they’ll feel, and how to take care of their baby. Unfortunately, her idea of motherhood and the reality of caring for a baby will likely differ. As a result, new moms become overwhelmed with demands and responsibilities.
If you desperately want to help a new mom but aren’t sure how, look no further! These 32 ways to help an overwhelmed new mom will help you support the new mom. To make it even easier, I have broken them down into three categories:
10 Ways To Provide Emotional Support To A New Mom
The transition to motherhood can have wide-ranging impacts on the emotional health of a new mom. However, receiving emotional support can significantly improve her emotional well-being.
1. Notice Her
Motherhood brings a new focus, priorities, and demands for the new mom. It’s a time when they need support and understanding, so ask questions about her baby. Focus on how she’s handling the changes.
2. Ask What She Needs
Simply asking what she needs could help a new mom—maybe even give her a much-needed break. Her response could be anything from a nap, a shower, or help with the laundry to grocery shopping. Even if her answer is “nothing,” she will be grateful you asked.
3. Be A Good Listener
Some new moms want to share many details about their experiences and babies, whereas others crave adult conversation. Allow the new mom to lead the conversation and talk about whatever she wants. You don’t have to give advice; listen and be there for her.
It is essential to check in on new moms regularly, specifically after the first weeks when the number of visitors decreases. A simple call, text, or voicemail lets her know you are thinking about her. Reaching out will help new moms feel less lonely and supported.
5. Tell Her That She Is Doing Great
Caring for a baby can sometimes be overwhelming, and new moms may feel like they are failing. It is reassuring when family and friends tell new moms they are doing a great job in their new role. A new mom needs others to acknowledge and recognize all her efforts.
6. Encourage Her To Trust Her Instincts
There is a lot of advice on raising babies, some of which can be conflicting and contradictory. All the suggestions ranging from swaddling babies to breastfeeding and formula options can confuse a new mom. Encourage her to do what feels right for her and her baby. Let her know it’s okay to try things out, change her mind, and treat her baby and situation as unique.
I have an interview with Heather MacFadyen on How To Embrace Imperfection In Motherhood that would help in this area. It encourages moms to be authentic while raising their kids and is filled with practical tips on how to stop comparing themselves with other moms.
7. Keep Her Social
Being at home can make a new mom feel isolated. Encourage her to get out of the house. Meet her for coffee or go for a walk together. These may seem like small gestures, but they can help a new mom feel connected.
8. Tell Her She Isn’t A Bad Person If She Feels Miserable
Being a new mom is a constant and demanding job. It is important to remind new moms that there will be hard days and months, but it is normal to feel all these emotions. It can be hard to focus on other joys of motherhood when you are sleep-deprived.
Sometimes, moms feel guilty that they are not enjoying their babies. But becoming a new mom comes with a roller-coaster of emotions. Read my article 25 Ways To Stop Mom Guilt Immediately for practical tips on how to deal with the emotions of motherhood.
9. Celebrate Her Successes
She got the baby to latch, enjoyed a hot cup of coffee, and got the baby to sleep through the night; these successes are significant to a new mom, so celebrate her successes either by texting her an array of emojis or calling her to say how awesome she is. Even if you don’t understand, celebrate her.
10. Encourage Her to Connect with Other Moms
While support from family and friends is crucial, new moms also need to talk and share with other new moms in a similar stage of life. Joining mom groups or taking classes are great ways to connect with other moms. If you need more suggestions on connecting with moms in the same season, read my article Mom Friends: Why They Are Important And 10 Ways On How To Make Them.
Some new moms have difficulty asking for help or knowing what they need. Family and friends want to help but might be unsure about how to help an overwhelmed mom. Here are 11 practical tips that will help a new mom in a meaningful way…
1. Bring Food
Dropping off a meal they could put in the fridge or freezer is a lifeline for an exhausted mom. You could bring a tray of fresh-cut veggies, fruits, deli meat, and cheese she could use for lunches and snacks. As a fun alternative, you can order an Edible Arrangements fresh fruit bouquet.
2. Organize A Meal Train
A meal train is a coordinated way for family and friends to deliver a meal to the new family. Meal trains lift the weight of meal planning for a new mom during the first couple of weeks.
BONUS TIP: Before you bring food or organize a meal train, ask her what her favorite food is and if she has any dietary restrictions or food allergies.
3. Help With The Family Pet
While you are visiting, take her dog out for a walk or clean her cat’s litter box. Consider taking her pet to your house for a week to help her recover and care for the baby.
4. Bring Her A Gift Just For Her
New moms receive many baby-related gifts, but a gift just for her reminds her that she matters too. Check out my 11 Helpful Gifts For New Moms for great gift ideas.
5. Volunteer To Do A Specific Household Chore
It is easy for a new mom to fall behind on household chores as she focuses on her baby. During your visit, offer to do specific household chores like loading or unloading the dishwasher, vacuuming, or washing and folding the laundry. You could also arrange a day when family and friends help deep clean her house.
6. Help With The Thank You Notes
A new mom receives many gifts and kind gestures but has little time to write or send thank you cards. You can buy thank you cards and stamps, then collect all names and cards for her or help her use Paperless Post to send e-cards.
7. Water Her Plants
Watering plants falls to the bottom of a to-do list when a new baby arrives. Walking past her sad and ignored houseplants can make a new mom feel like she’s not keeping up with life, one more trigger for the overwhelm she already feels. It’s a small thing, but a quick visit to water her plants is a great way to help a new mom.
8. Help Her Sleep
Sleep is hard to come by during those first weeks of motherhood, so help a new mom get some rest. You could take care of her baby while she takes a much-needed nap. Or offer to arrive early in the morning so mom can sleep in. This way, a new mom can rest, knowing her baby is in good hands.
BONUS TIP: During her nap, you could tackle simple household chores: folding laundry, dusting, or making a snack.
9. Arrange A Date Night
When a new baby arrives, couples become so focused on caring for the baby that they forget to focus on their relationship. You can help by arranging some time for the new parents to reconnect. For example, organize a date and time you can babysit so the new parents can enjoy a dinner and movie uninterrupted.
10. Do Some Errands For Her
She may need some items from the pharmacy or grocery store, so offer to pick them up. Does she need to pick up or drop clothes off at the dry cleaner? Maybe her car is low on gas? Fill up for her. Whatever the errand may be, a new mom will greatly appreciate your help.
BONUS TIP: Give her a call before your visit to find out if she needs some items from a particular store.
11. Help To Assemble Baby Products
A new mom may need more energy to assemble baby gear like a baby bouncer, playpen, and furniture. So gather some friends and arrange a day to get all baby gear assembled and ready to use.
Shopping for gifts can be challenging, but it’s even trickier when looking for gifts for new moms. If you’re trying to decide what to buy a new mom, I hope this list will help. It is filled with great gifts that will help a new mom adjust to motherhood while encouraging her to relax and recharge.
1. Gift Certificate To A Spa
A new mom desperately needs some pampering time. A gift certificate to a spa for a massage, manicure, or pedicure is the perfect way to gift her some self-care time that she desperately needs.
2. Cleaning Service
A newborn in the house means lots of extra cleaning that an exhausted new mom may not be able to handle. A cleaning service can be helpful as she gets used to her new routine. Family and friends can pitch in for a cleaning service to relieve some stress.
BONUS TIP: While she is at the spa, you and your friends can babysit and surprise her with a clean home and prepared meal.
3. Meal Subscription
New moms tend to skip meals or develop unhealthy eating habits. A meal subscription can deliver high-quality ingredients that turn mealtime into a more manageable experience. For example, HelloFresh comes with pre-portioned, uncooked meals and simple recipes she can make in 20-30 minutes.
4. Snack Subscription
Motherhood is hard work, and it is easy for the new mom to develop unhealthy eating habits. But a snack subscription, like UrthBox, can deliver healthy snacks to her door every month. Urthbox’s monthly subscription program sends you a box of organic, all-natural, and non-GMO snacks every month. Urthbox can also accommodate gluten-free, vegan, and classic diets.
5. Postpartum Journal
Journaling can help decrease stress, depression, and anxiety. The Postpartum Grace Guide helps new moms process the emotions of motherhood. Each journal day includes a short, encouraging message and a space for reflection.
6. Motherhood Encouragement Cards
Encouragement cards provide supportive advice and encouragement to new moms. Motherhood can be lonely or stressful, but this pack of 10 devotion cards reminds mama that God is with her. She can display the cards as beautiful pieces of art around the house to remind herself of God’s truths.
7. Clothing Subscription
After giving birth, a new mom will deal with body changes and find she is between maternity and her pre-pregnancy wardrobe. A fashion subscription like Wantable can help her find new, comfortable, and stylish options.
8. Grocery Delivery Service
A gift card to a grocery delivery service, like Instacart, can help a new mom shop at her favorite stores and arrange for delivery instead of going to the grocery store with her baby. A grocery delivery service is a great time saver and stress reliever that she will greatly appreciate.
9. Beauty Box
A beauty subscription, like Allure Beauty Box, gives new moms a “pampered feeling” with its skincare and makeup products. Each box includes six or more products, with at least three full-sized ones and a magazine with tips and product reviews. The box is delivered monthly and contains over $100 products that any new mom would appreciate.
10. Professional Photo Shoot
Treat a new mom to a photo session with a local photographer. Most photographers will come to her home or her favorite location. Looking back at the pictures, she’ll feel the love and joy that made those sleepless nights, spit-ups, and diaper mishaps worth it.
11. Coffee Pour-Over Maker
Any new mom would love a coffee pour-over brewer to give her a great-tasting cup before the baby chaos begins. A specialty coffee like City League Coffee Roasters would be a great addition to any coffee maker.
Remember, the new mom you’re visiting is going through a significant life transition and will be grateful for any effort. You can rest assured that any of these ideas, gifts, or services will help the new mom feel loved.
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